Your Pain Tolerance Determine Your Level of Happiness…

Let it go, laugh it off, and move on with your life…

Credit: Klaus Nielsen

Unfortunately, today we live in a society where you have to navigate the words that come out of your mouth, just as you would navigate a walk through a minefield—a society where people’s skin is as fragile as an eggshell.

Now, I’m all about treating people with respect.

I don’t think you should go out of your way to cause someone else harm or treat them with disrespect, even if they are someone you do not get along with. But what I can’t seem to understand is why so many people see any sign of disrespect, especially when it is unintentional, as crippling…

I am a straight white male. I have not been called racial or sexual slurs. But that does not mean I have not heard many hurtful things in my life. That does not mean I have not had people try to put me down intentionally. I have...

To provide a couple of innocent examples, I have been told, “Nobody likes f**king you, Travis, get away from us” or “ I hate Travis; he’s stupid, annoying, and has no personality.” Both were hurtful and made me feel less valuable as a person for a short time. But words like that have never been crippling to me. They have never given me a reason to change course in my life or cry that something has to be done to make me feel better.

They have only hurt me down to a certain point. And that point is determined by my own selfrespect.

I believe people are entitled to their opinions. And let’s be real, some people suck, and their options hurt, but the simple fact is, their option is their business, not yours. And to take it one step further, if you allow someone else’s opinion to dictate how you feel (which is your business, not theirs), you are intentionally choosing to be a victim because no one has the power to mentally or emotionally hurt you without your permission.

How you feel, behave, and act is your responsibility. There is no way around that. As long as you have air in your lungs and a beating heart in your chest, you have the responsibility to control your actions and behaviors. Yes, at times, your feelings will be hurt, but that's life, and if you think that you have never hurt someone else’s feelings, you are sorely mistaken.

In the end, the message I am trying to convey is that it does you no good to harbor anger and resentment. It does, you no good to complain about how you have been wronged. All it does is create a cycle of more and more negativity. It makes me think of a bible verse in Matthew 5:22…

But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.

The moral here… Let go of your anger, resentments, and judgments; otherwise, they will only contribute to the cycle of suffering. Feel the pain for what it is, accept it only down to a certain point, then let it go because it does you no good, holding on to it. Hold yourself with high regard and high respect, don’t let anyone take that from you.

With Love,

— Travis



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